The Joys of Being a Dad

Our newest little princess, Jordyn.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jordyn, she’s been so attentive – wanting to see everything, and before even knowing how to crawl wants to go places… where? I have no idea.

 

I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” – Sigmund Freud

 

 

 

I’ve been rather busy in the past couple of months, our little girl Jordyn came earlier than we expected, bright an early (4 am early) June 29th; and has been an early bird ever since.

I’ve been slowly, but surely getting back into working my writing in between my job, and being a dad. I’ve been stuck trying to wrap my mind on a topic for my next blog post. I thought a perfect topic would be my own children and the joys I’ve had as a father of 7 children… yes, 7. Some men can only consider themselves so lucky.

 

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Teyvion, where do I begin? Yes he is that talented. A martial arts expert, magician, and dancer.🙂

I consider it a blessing everyday, and take every moment to share in as much of their everyday lives as I can. There’s so much I miss out on in the lives of my older children. So, it goes without saying that I cherish every opportunity I do get.

 

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Tegina and Chad, these two are so talented with photography it’s ridiculous. ha ha🙂

It’s not easy living apart from them (my older children), actually it’s been hellish experience that fails to get any easier. I’ve taken Sophia’s advice of finding other dads in my, or similar situation as a dad.

It was a bit difficult, and tiring research; but I’ve come across a multitude of blogs, articles, and videos of dads who may not always have the time they like with their children.

One of my recurring favorites being the National Center for Fathering:

 

http://www.fathers.com/s12-championship-fathering/coaching/how-to-build-leaders-its-a-dads-job/

 

 

My little scientist <3 Humble, her interest in various sciences has also fueled mine.

My little scientist❤ Humble, her interest in various sciences has also fueled what I love about science.

I found the above article interesting, and inspiring. To me being a leader is an essential part of being a dad. We lead in more ways than we think and give ourselves credit for.

 

Looking at my youngest when I hold her, and help her explore the world around her inspires all the joys that being a dad comes with. Her reactions to the things she sees, and the varied emotions her beautiful face gives reminds me of the same emotions I get as my older children experience in their lives. It’s like I’m living the adventure all over again, a wonderful feeling me and Sophia get to share over again.❤

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jaedyn holding her baby sister, Jordyn. She’s been such a wonderful big sister. I can already see these two having all kinds of fun together🙂

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Fatherhood Series: Preparing for a New Addition.

A father recites verses of the Qur'an in the ears of his new born baby. Muslims believe that this serves as a blessing and protection for children.

A new father recites verses of the Qur’an in the ears of his new born baby. Muslims believe that this serves as a blessing and protection for children.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve been so excited since we learned the gender of our baby girl, Jordyn Neveah. As you all are familiar with my Father hood series every post discusses things pertinent to fathers. I thought I’d make this one on something recent in my own life; as well as how new fathers as well as veteran dads can best prepare for that new addition to their family.

For new dads, the news of a baby can vary; but in general can be a scary thing. It’s a feeling dads, who already have children can also have some anxieties about. Jordyn’s mother is in her 3rd trimester, and during that time we both have had to relearn a few things.

 

Tips for New Dads

First things’ first… breathe🙂

Ok, now that that’s out of the way congrats, your in for a bit of an adventure! First thing any father wants to do is personally prepare himself. It pretty much goes without saying your finances and other obligations should be in order (and we’ll discuss that a little later). However, as your baby develops over the course of the pregnancy it’s going to be interesting. So, a little self preparation isn’t a bad thing.

Work on and further your connection with God

Regardless of your faith, a sincere attempt to connect with God helps you to stay optimistic, further develop patience, and just naturally helps you to feel better. A good way to do this is to also join a men’s group or connect with other men at your place of worship. Surrounding yourself around good people helps to remind you of the values you want to emulate for your child.

Watch what you spend.

I’ve been working with this idea myself, taking advantage of coupons, employee discounts at my job, and keeping receipts so that I keep track of what I spend.

Also making sacrifices in your purchases can also help, when you absolutely have to buy something consider the price and whether something cheaper (or not purchasing it) might  be better.

Another good practice is to – if you haven’t already – set up a savings account and put away as much as you (reasonably) can.You never know when you’ll need it, and it’s always nice to know that you took the time out to put something aside.

Take the time out to spoil Mom.

Don’t get too distracted with your own personal growth and plans for baby, mom also needs you. Everything about her is changing and happening as the baby grows. She will get physically (and emotionally) drained easier, as her body changes to accommodate the baby it can seem as if you are on a roller coaster.

… again… breathe. It can be a moment for you to be more involved🙂 Think ahead to mom’s needs, if she is still working (and many moms do). What will make it easier on her? Some of your best sources of information will be ones your going to see more and more of.  Attending appointments with the obstetrician or midwife will not only support your partner but keep you informed and help build a rapport with the people you will need to work with when the time comes

It doesn’t have to be all business either, you can even make a date of it, take mom out after an appointment to you favorite place to eat; a walk, or anything you both enjoy doing.

Further your knowledge about what goes on with baby.

Learning about what goes on with your child even during this time while he or she develops helps you also build a connection. Take the time out to see the beauty that comes with it. There are so many wonderful websites, and other sources that can help you. Here are a few of my favorites:

http://www.whattoexpect.com/what-to-expect/landing-page.aspx

http://www.babycenter.com/

 

 

‘Young Warriors’ coming in 2016

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It’s been a few years since I said to myself I wanted to write a book, back then I wasn’t sure exactly what to write out, and I allowed the whole idea of writing one to sit in the back of mind, before I finally got up enough courage to begin.

I’m looking forward to it being self published through Amazon early next year. So in the coming months to build up interest amongst my readers both old and young I decided to finish writing short stories about the characters to introduce them to readers.

For now if your interested in reading one, check out ‘Humble’s Climb’: https://writingelite.wordpress.com/2014/08/05/humbles-climb/

 

Happy Reading!🙂