‘Young Warriors’ coming in 2016

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It’s been a few years since I said to myself I wanted to write a book, back then I wasn’t sure exactly what to write out, and I allowed the whole idea of writing one to sit in the back of mind, before I finally got up enough courage to begin.

I’m looking forward to it being self published through Amazon early next year. So in the coming months to build up interest amongst my readers both old and young I decided to finish writing short stories about the characters to introduce them to readers.

For now if your interested in reading one, check out ‘Humble’s Climb’: https://writingelite.wordpress.com/2014/08/05/humbles-climb/

 

Happy Reading! :)

Art of Love: The Art of Arguments.

Even the best of couples have arguments, it’s almost as natural as being human. Even with all the differences in people’s personalities there’s a way couples can resolve conflicts and enhance the value of their relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.”
Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

 

It would be an understatement to say arguments are no fun, especially with a partner, or spouse. Arguments are something we all try to avoid with our significant other, however they are bound to occur; it’s only natural.

It happens to the best of couples, and every couple has their own unique way of dealing with them. We’d like to take a new look, though. One couples may not have thought of before. As an art, not to win an argument; but rather to help them overcome it.

The Art of Hearing

 

 

 

 

 

 

Emotions are a crazy thing. One minute you are basking in the feeling of being next to the one you love, the next frustrated at a minor disagreement gone down hill.

The solution seems a lot simpler than we think, as simple as taking a moment to get our thoughts in order, and look at the disagreement with fresh thinking.

My favorite scene from the movie ‘White Men Can’t Jump’ is where there is an argument over the skill of listening as opposed to hearing.

 

 

Hearing our partners, like ‘hearing Jimi’ is an art form that if take the time to learn, it can help us not only handle disagreements better; but also enhance the love we experience with our spouse. Relationships don’t exist in a vacuum, rather they exist between two emotional human beings that bring their own past experiences and different levels of communication skills.

  1. Allow your partner the opportunity to be heard – Sometimes in the heat of any argument the need to be heard ourselves gets in the way of hearing the other persons’ side.

… so to ‘Stop and Listen’ is the first step in mastering hearing and coming to better solutions.

2. Force yourself to hear – It’s another great method to overcome barriers to truly communicating with your partner. Using ‘I’ statements (sparingly and without sarcasm), such as, ‘I understand how you feel…’ or ‘I’m hearing you say that…’; can bring back to mind your partners side and take the focus off of yourself.

3. Be honest and open.

 

4. Pay attention and learn read your spouse’s non verbal language – a wealth of emotion underneath what we say is locked away in it – something as simple as your tone, a particular look, or tilt of the head.

 

5. Sometimes they aren’t trying to argue, but just want you to listen; yes, it can be as simple as that sometimes :)

 

 

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The Art of Love

Love is often times a misused emotion, mistaken for a variety of intentions. However, True love is an art, and for those brave enough to study it; there are limitless rewards.

Love is often times a misused emotion, mistaken for a variety of intentions. However, True love is an art, and for those brave enough to study it; there are limitless rewards.

I remember when I first met her at my sister in law’s (at that my brother and her weren’t married) birthday party. I fell for her the moment I saw her. For most of us love happens in that way, it can strike without warning, and if nurtured last a lifetime.

 

“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”
Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

How true that is, in a Pew Research survey conducted in 2013 cited 88% of Americans as listing ‘love’ as the most important reason to marry.

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/02/14/5-facts-about-love-and-marriage/

The next question, which is pretty obvious, is how do we develop the art of love? Sometimes the concept of love is misunderstood and used for the wrong reason. It can be a blurry line between lust and what it’s actually intended to be.

 

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From my own experience, I would have to say a person will never truly learn the art unless they are willing to sacrifice. People have the innate need to establish close personal relationships. However, this isn’t always easy. It’s harder to stay in a relationship than to start one. This is where looking at love as an art form rather than just a feeling comes in.

Not to mention that men and women communicate in almost polar opposite ways to have a truly loving relationship requires a more serious approach .

Some basics on the Art of Love

While I’m in no way trying to make myself out to be a relationship expert, personal experience can always be a helpful thing. In doing a little research I found some very interesting facts on how all of us can have happy and enjoyable relationships, marriages and even friendships.

 

1. It takes two… 

In my own path to learning the art of love I to learn to be more communicative about my emotions. Sometimes men can seem rather cold to the women in our lives, and this can translate (unfortunately) to being distant.

  • Do little things, like writing letters; poetry; loving texts, and other things that let him/ her know you are thinking about them.
  • Saying I love you never goes out of style, and giving reasons why enhances the meaning :).

2. Redefine intimacy.

It’s unfortunate that intimacy has come to be equated with just sex sometimes. Intimacy is so much more than just the physical side. In my experience the complaint, ‘that all men want is sex’ while not always true can be a serious blow to a relationship.

  • There’s nothing better than basking in silence cuddled up with that special someone.
  • Hold his/her hand absent-mindlessly, don’t worry he/she won’t mind.

3. Be willing to learn from each other.

There is so much spouses can learn from each other, and it’s important to see each other as if you are looking into a mirror. Learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.

I’m sure all of you have some good ideas to share, and we would love to hear them.

 

Rethinking our purpose on Writing Elite

It’s been awhile since the last post, and I hope all my readers haven’t given up on us. This blog was created for not only for creating great, well researched web content and articles, but also pass on the beauty of great literature for both other writers as well as fans of reading.

Freelancing although is a very competitive field, not something that you can just start and expect to be successful at over night. So, I decided to raise the bar on myself, and this blog. While I’ve always had a passion for writing, and consider myself a fairly decent writer — I have several fans amongst my family and friends– I have noticed where my writing hasn’t been of the superior quality editors and readers crave.

The next level for Writing Elite.

So you may be wondering what I’m talking about. I’ve recently been attending college to start on a rewarding journey in education; along with that I get the opportunity to refine the craft of writing which we all are fans of.

Not that being a writer requires a degree, unless a person is aspiring to work in a more technical field. I’ve also managed to secure other employment (it’s as a stock clerk, but I have fun coworkers :) ) What I’ve been able to take away from these past 2 academic quarters of college has helped me to not only find a passion worth writing about, but also write better.

With that said, the focus and frequency of posts here at Writing Elite is going to change a little, get a little more organized and refined. With my busy schedule I undoubtedly have to get more organized, but would also like to give other prospective writers the opportunity to get ahead on their freelance writing efforts. In a way it’s my way of giving back for all the wonderful opportunities I’ve had pursuing my dream of being a writer.

Submission guidelines

So for all those aspiring writers out there looking to build your portfolio here’s your opportunity. While at the moment this is a voluntary writing opportunity, you also get to have your voice heard and further develop your writing skills. There will be paid  opportunities as the blog develops.

So here is what I’m looking for:

  • Writers that have a good command of written English communication, you have to be able to write decently and willing to grow.
  • Enjoy looking researching topics (reputable sources, please don’t tell me Google is your only place to look things up).
  • Be able to pitch story ideas as well as work alongside other writers in teams to develop story ideas.
  • No degree required, but if you have one great!
  • Show initiative in helping me create the best platform for aspiring writers, businesses looking for great writers, and of course our fans, gotta ‘please the mob that is Rome.’.

 

Now with all that said, if your interested send an email to Ahmad Jenkins: ahmadj11@hotmail.com

Tell me a little bit about yourself, your background as a writer, and what you expect to bring to this site, as well as what you can do to improve it (Feel free to look around the site, and tell me what can be done differently).

I look forward to hearing from you